eat, drink & be married

“I am breathless. I almost couldn’t breathe,” Siegel said after the ceremony. “It’s mind-boggling. The fact that it’s happening to us — that we are finally legal and can do this like everyone else.”

Edible Favors - mini cakes! adorable!

my ultimate dream……

I am about to make a fairly embarrassing confession to those here who do not know me personally – I am not engaged. Through the pop culture that is relationships and the “hes just not that into you” era we live in, we have established all kinds of “rules of engagement”. I guess for short, I am here to explain why none of these rules are legitimate whatsoever: Particularly what I call the “ben affleck” complex.

For those who are not familiar: In “Hes just not that into you”, Ben Affleck and Jennifer Aniston are a couple who have been together for somewhere around 10 years or so and Affleck has difficulty proposing.

Now onto Ben Affleck:
Realistically, I should be able to write the book on this one. My boyfriend (whom I live with and share a life with) have been together for just under 6 and a ½ years now – and when I say 6 and ½ I mean it, no break up period, no seeing other people, just straight love for 365 days a year since 2004. The “hes just not that into you” spiel started occurring conveniently around the time that the movie came out and the book made it big. Suddenly, I was Jennifer Aniston and to others it was becoming quiet obvious that if he wanted to marry me, he would have. As I got older and older, and more friends of mine were getting married or engaged, I truly did start to resent this man whom I loved so much – I was starting to hate him for not proposing. One day, not too long ago, I sat and I realized that although I was still dyng for that ring, there was something so wonderful about waiting. There was something so great about knowing that we survived all the odds for all the years. While there is so much to say for “young love” in that it is so fascinating to learn knew things about that person and stay on the phone for hours talking about your futures and your lives, there is so much more to say for the day you realize that no-one, on this entire planet knows you better than them. Any guy can stay when the relationship is good. When the sex is good, or the conversation is good and especially when the money is good. The day you realize you want to marry someone wont come out of something from a movie. You wont go running to the airport as hes leaving for another country and you wont be standing in the pouring rain crying that you love him (of course prompting a huge make out scene in which everyone around claps). The day you realize you want to marry him is the day your grandpa passes away and hes there, with your favorite candy. The day you realize you are moving hours away to school and he stays faithful. The day you both are students and barely have enough for a cup of coffee – but talking will do, and especially for the day you are each drooling on the same pillow in oversized, anything-but-sexy flannel pjs. *so, for the girl out there, that’s been with her ben affleck for a couple years, give it some time – Forget the “5 signs he’ll never marry you” or the “is he right for you” quiz and think logically. If he didn’t love you, if he wasn’t committed and didn’t want to marry you one day, do you really think he would spend years and years with you. No.

ahhhh! more birdies… to die for <3